Couples therapy
For the pattern that repeats: pursue, withdraw, repeat. Emotionally Focused Therapy and Gottman-informed work on what happens between you rather than on who is right.
Especially for Partners at any stage
Read moreCouples & Partners
Therapy and Coaching for Couples
Most couples arrive with the same loop and different content — money, sex, in-laws, whose turn it is. The work here is on the loop.
Where couples usually start
Marriage and premarital counseling
From "are we ready?" to "how do we find our way back?" — for engaged couples and for married partners at a crossroad.
Especially for Engaged and married partners
Read moreAffair recovery
After a betrayal, when you do not yet know whether you are rebuilding or ending. Structured work on the rupture, at a pace you can survive.
Especially for Couples after a betrayal
Read moreIntensives
Several hours or several days rather than fifty minutes a week — for couples who need momentum, or who cannot get to weekly sessions.
Especially for Couples who need traction fast
Read moreRelationship coaching
Forward-facing work on what you want your relationship to be, rather than treatment for what is wrong with it.
Especially for Couples and individuals
Read moreWho we work with
LGBTQ+ couples, couples of color, interracial couples, non-monogamous partners, and anyone who has spent a first session in someone else's office explaining themselves before the work could begin. That explaining is not part of the work here.
Terese De'Lorae leads the couples therapy; Dr. Bukky Kolawole takes relationship coaching clients. In person in Midtown Manhattan and Essex County, New Jersey, and by video across both states.
Who you would see
Terese De'Lorae, LMFT-LP
Couples & Individual Therapist
Couples · LGBTQ+ · Non-monogamy · Relational dynamics · Gottman Method
Accepting new clients
Bukky Kolawole, PsyD
Founder · Psychologist · Executive Coach · Relationship Coach
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples · Race-based stress and racial trauma · LGBTQ+ topics · Intensive work · Motivational Interviewing (MINT member) · Relationship and executive coaching
Accepting new clients
Questions
What people ask
How long are couples sessions?
Most couples do best with 75 minutes. Shorter sessions are available and cost less; the longer session usually moves further.
What if only one of us wants to come?
Start anyway. Individual therapy with relationships in view is real work, and it often changes what happens between you.
Do you take insurance?
We are out-of-network. Where your plan accepts out-of-network claims and you elect the service, we file on your behalf; otherwise we provide superbills on request.
Start with a consultation
Tell us what is going on. We will tell you honestly whether we are the right practice for it, and match you with the practitioner who fits — or point you to someone better placed.