Couples & Partners
Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples
EFT treats recurring conflict as an attachment problem rather than a communication-skills problem. The fight is not about the dishes; it is about whether you can reach each other.
How EFT works
- De-escalate. Identify the cycle — typically one partner pursues and one withdraws — and name it as the shared enemy.
- Restructure. Each partner learns to express the vulnerable feeling underneath their usual move, and to respond to their partner's.
- Consolidate. New responses become the default, including under stress.
Why we lean on it
It has the strongest outcome research in couples therapy, and it is durable — the gains hold up at follow-up rather than fading once sessions stop.
Questions
What people ask
How is EFT different from the Gottman method?
Gottman is behavioral and skills-forward; EFT works on the emotional bond underneath the behavior. Good therapists borrow from both, and we do.
Start with a consultation
Tell us what is going on. We will tell you honestly whether we are the right practice for it, and match you with the practitioner who fits — or point you to someone better placed.